Debunking Marriage Myths

If you're a part of the Harvestime Temple family, you know that every quarter we send out a 3 month devotional. This devotionals are entitled; "The Word For You Today". Well, for 4 days it is talking about 'Debunking Marriage Myths'. It is so good I had to pass it along...

1. The myth of 'viral love': This myth insists that love is caught, much like a virus. "Some Enchanted Evening", when you happen to be in the right place at the right time - it will zap you! You'll catch a bug and you will enter into a lifetime of bliss. The trouble is that when we're worn out taking care of 3 kids, 2 jobs and a second mortgage, the 'virus' subsides. Reality seems to push away the romance. The truth is that love does not die because romance bows to reality. Romance brings us together, this kind of love keeps us together!


2. The myth of the 'right person': This myth creates the idea it's a matter of luck; Cupid, or the alignment of the stars, the moon hitting your eye at the right time. Happiness is not all about finding the right person, but BECOMING the right person, the one that God created us to be. Giving to others, allowing others to be real, and looking to God for our joy!


3. The myth of 'the full box': This myth suggest that when we marry, we inherit a big box with self-replacing good things, guaranteeing effortless unending marital bliss. When we run through that box and it no longer fulfills us, we run to get another box (or another relationship). Marriage is a bog box, an empty one. Your job is to make enough deposits into that marriage box to guarantee sufficient withdrawals for a rich relationship. You see, the box is only a container: it didn't fail and you didn't get a bad box. Become a giver to your marriage, not just a taker!


4. The myth of the 'marriage-go-around': This myth says you can hop on and off marriages when you are bored, discontented, stressed out, or get a better offer. Today we are conditioned to instant gratification. We are a disposable society, whatever doesn't perform to our liking will be replaced rather than repaired. But the truth is that this myth doesn't work; over 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 65% of second marriages and better than 70% of third ones.

God's way is always our best option - ALWAYS! When He says, "[whom] God hath joined together, let no man put asunder" Matthew 19:6, He intends that in working and growing through the obstacles and opportunities of your marriage, you'll become a better partner and end up building a happier marriage. Enjoy the Journey!!!

Loving My Wife and Blessed in my Marriage!
MT